A Ponder for your Thursday

Posted: December 16, 2010 in Headspace, Your Opinion Matters

Do you think that happiness is a choice?

Ponder, comment, discuss.

  1. iamheatherjo says:

    I think you already know what my answer is going to be on this one, yes?

    I absolutely do. When you think about your situation and someone else in a similar situation. Do they handle them the same way? Where one person chooses to give up under the same circumstances another chooses to push on. It’s all in that choice.

    I know too many people who would be absolutely miserable living the life I lead. They think it’s awful and sad that I’m “alone” and that I have “no family” and they think I’ve had an awful childhood…blah blah blah. I choose to see it differently and to grab my love and happiness where I can. I’m not ALWAYS happy, you know that. But I guess in the ways I choose my happy…I choose my sads, too. 😉

  2. Jen says:

    To a certain extent, yes.
    But there are a lot of factors, not the least of which can be simple brain chemistry.

  3. crisi-tunity says:

    I think it depends on the person. As Jen says, it can be a matter of brain chemistry. But I know that my mother has chosen time and again to be unhappy about various aspects of her life, seemingly on purpose, so there’s that.

    I think I would say that happiness is not necessarily a choice, but contentedness surely is.

  4. boundandgags says:


    To prove that, which iamheatherjo pretty much did, all you have to do is compare and contrast. I know two people, both lives are going very well (live one block apart, drive similar vehicles, vacation in like locales) one is the most irascible, complaining cuss you’d have the misfortune to be stuck in an elevator with. The other is the exact opposite.

    Is each attitude a choice?


    Moods can chance in a heartbeat but the person who drives the primary outlook controls how deeply each mood takes hold. In a two hour span, beside the normal psychos I deal with, I dealt with a born again christian and a white supremacist (yes, I am the luckiest boy in the land). I blew them both off in the same manner (which I just finished writing and will be on my page later) but when I told someone the story (I made them both vanish using humor – to me – to them I was horrible) they went ballistic. It wasn’t even a moment in their life yet they wouldn’t let it go for a half hour or so. What’s going to happen if someone misses a green light or you have to stay a little late at work? It’s probably going to be a little tough to shake off.

    It sums up into what you are going to focus on because good and bad happens to everyone every day. If you wake up and say, “Uh, work again!” It may be setting the tone for the day. But if you wake up, as I did today, and it’s below freezing, it’s windy as a bastard, I’ve got ten or so hours dealing with all kinds of people before I’m close to home and can say, “It’s a living!” Maybe the assholes and holy rollers and just normal psychos of the day won’t be able to force you out of your chosen mood.

    Truthfully, they won’t because you’ve already made yourself stronger than them.

  5. Jean says:

    Brain chemistry aside, yes, I surely believe that happiness is a choice we make. And must make over and over and over. For me, happiness is rooted in a sense of appreciation for the good things in my life.

    Some of the best advice that I ever got on this very subject was from my mom (whom I miss more over time instead of less – how is the possible???).

    She told me “You can’t wait for big things in life to be excited and happy about. There aren’t enough of them. You have to look for and find those feelings in the little things in your life. And if it seems like your glass is only half full, get a smaller glass. It’s all relative.”

    Ain’t it the truth? This words are bookmarked in my brain. She also told me that ‘the hard thing to do is almost ALWAYS the right thing to do’. Applying that in my life has been the difference between happiness and turmoil more times than I can count.

  6. Taoist Biker says:

    Yes, and Heather and B&G spoke it much better than I could. I just wish I was sometimes more capable of making that choice. But I’m workin’ on it. 🙂

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